3 Boxes That Keep You Stuck

By Tiffany A. Dedeaux

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One of the things I address with clients is what box they’re in.

There are three different categories that I realize factor into how we become stuck or get ourselves unstuck. The first box that seems to impede progress would be the box of buildings. Part of my background is a study of ecopsychology and looking at our relationship with the rest of the earth and how we care for ourselves. So, if we’re feeling stuck, part of what we can do is get grounded and even go for a walk outside.

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The other box that I typically look at is the boxes of expectations and routines, by walking outside we can typically disrupt our routine so that we can look at things from a fresh perspective. Sometimes it can be a matter of recognizing we may no longer be a morning person.

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The third box is the box of expectations. When I started this practice about 10 years ago, it had a lot to do with other people’s expectations and how that weighs on us. Over the years I have come to realize the expectations we have for ourselves can also weigh heavy on us.

When we address those aspects of what has us stuck, we can break ourselves free because once we recognize what is holding us back, we can then free ourselves.

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Years of Experience: What To Consider

By Tiffany A. Dedeaux

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There’s a saying, well, actually there’s a song that said something about ‘don’t take it personal.’ If I could sing I would put it to the words ‘don’t take it literal…’

I keep thinking and talking with people about their job search, not to take things so literally when the job description says a certain number of years of experience. I’m seeing people count on their fingers, the number of months and years that maybe they have experience with certain skills, tools, or roles.

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I remember starting out my career doing that and being made fun of by a co-worker. It’s not a bad thing. It just turns out that things aren’t just that cut and dry.

Instead of saying, okay, I only have two months of experience, think about all the other things that you know, that you bring to the job and share that. It’s important to not forget where you came from, who you are, and what got you here so that you can explain that and share your gift with the world.

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What Can You Negotiate?

By Tiffany A. Dedeaux

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In my discussions with different people the question came up, what can you negotiate when salary is not a factor? Either the money meets the market demands or has already been deemed non-negotiable.

While there may be different thoughts and camps on what to negotiate, you could talk about a signing bonus, which apparently, is not just for the sports industry anymore. This can be a way for a company, since the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, to lock in your commitment.

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Relocation payments or reimbursement could be part of the package, as can be office equipment or expenses if you are working from home.

Some of the people I talk to do not have an issue with the vacation time on the table, some companies in the tech industry even offer unlimited paid-time-off (PTO), but if that is an option you could put that on the table.

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With the tech trends being disrupted at an accelerated pace, outside the speed of Moore’s law, could a training stipend or reimbursement policy be factored into your job offer negotiations? For some, that training could also include career coaching to help you navigate new role demands.

Training is one idea that is definitely worth considering because you don’t want to be just a viable candidate for right now. You want to stay ahead of the curve and keep being viable into the future.

Training is one idea that is definitely worth considering because you don’t want to be just a viable candidate for right now. You want to stay ahead of the curve and keep being viable into the future.

These are a few ideas that I have discussed with others, and if you have any, feel free to post those in the chat or reach out to me and let’s have a conversation about it.

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What NOT to Say in a Job Interview

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What should you NOT say in a job interview? The first thing that comes to my mind is nothing. You should not say nothing.

If somebody asks you a question and you’re not sure of the answer or all the words just completely left your head, it’s important to acknowledge that, say, ‘oh my goodness, I just forgot that the word I was looking for,’ and then from there, share your thought process, like how you would go about solving the problem.

We’re all human. So it’s just about connecting with the other person, and not feeling bad about not being perfect.

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How to Respond When a Company Isn’t Hiring

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How should you respond when a recruiter or hiring manager says they currently don’t have the budget for new staff? Or do they say they just hired for the role?

That could be a go-to line but there are a few things to know and that you can ask to turn this into an opportunity:

When do they expect to have the new budget?

Because it could be a matter of when an employer decides on headcount or the number of people that they could hire, it could be helpful to ask when they expect to have a new budget. For example, not all companies might actually have a fiscal year that ends in December and then starts again in January. There might in fact be some that start in June so their hiring practices could ramp up during the Summer. You could essentially plan for the turnover to start happening at that time or the expansion of the teams.

What should you be preparing for?

While you continue your job search, there may be some new technology you could learn, especially if there are months to go before they start hiring.

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Why New Videos?

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The mission behind adding in different kinds of videos morphed from frequently asked questions that I could answer around careers and job search to an attempt to help as many people as possible.

Taking the position of Chief Empowerment Officer, as it were, I want to be the glass half full and to explain the why behind some of the things that I’m noticing in recruitment and in career journeys because that part can help us to understand and embrace change when it occurs or it can help us to decide between a couple of options.

These videos are really about empowering you to think outside of the box for yourself and be able to contribute in an authentic way to the world.

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What Should You Study for a Tech Career?

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What exactly should you be studying if you want a certain role?

Check Job Boards for Current Skills

Nowadays in careers where we get to drive our careers ourselves. We’re not waiting for an employer to do it and employers aren’t taking on that responsibility. Essentially what I would recommend doing is first and foremost, if you’re ready to look now, go out and pull up at least three jobs and those jobs should be what you’re targeting now, then go through the requirements area.

And if they are in fact asking for the skills you’re looking to study, then go ahead and study those skills, especially if you don’t feel like you’re very strong in them right now.


Use Skills to Search for Jobs

If the job descriptions are not requiring the skills you are looking to study, then the next step is to look for jobs with your target title. Go ahead and search for the skills and see what types of jobs come up. You can actually search for jobs according to skills and not just job titles. And that might help be insightful as to if that is a path you want to go, at least for what the market is asking for right now.

Search Market Trends

Now there’s a couple of other things that you can do to determine if, in fact, this is the right job or study pattern for you. One thing you could do is look at Google Trends, and start searching for that and see if that’s a popular term or skill in your area in the market. I’ve seen businesses use that to determine what they should focus on.

Network. Network. Network.

Now, something else that you could do is you could actually use this as a good excuse to network. Find somebody who is senior in their experience level, in their career, who’s been doing this awhile, and find out what trends they see happening in the area.

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Ask them a couple of questions, get to know them, build that relationship. And I say it that way in case you don’t already know them, but this is a way where you could network and get a chance to answer the questions for yourself. By gathering the information for yourself so you can take ownership of your next steps.

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Sacred Time: What it Means to Me

I wanted to gather and share my thoughts a little bit on what Sacred Time is because the name tends to be presented back to me when people realize that it’s about setting aside time for yourself, for self-care, for the things that matter to you, and that helped to fuel you so that you can be a part of the community.

So some of that can be just taking time to read or breathe or play music, or, practice a hobby that gets you excited and keeps you going because that’s really, what’s needed. A lot of things that we do aren’t really about the destination, which is why we’re not necessarily always excited when we arrive somewhere. It’s about the journey.

And so what can you do to be present in this moment so that you can be a part of the journey, to the purpose, of your life, and to the destination that you’re headed towards. That’s what Sacred Time is about. At least to me.

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Embrace Change

I wanted to share thoughts on why I consider full-time to be and embrace the season. Part of that is because usually changes afoot, fall is the time of year when I noticed that hiring picks up and that corresponds when students go back to school, children go back to school. Then the hiring picks up somewhere, uh, the beginning of, or middle of September.

And then I also started to notice that that’s my favorite time of year, uh, that the leaves start to turn and you get the pop of color cause I’m in Washington state. Then the leaves, when the storms come, the leaves fall off and it, it can be a very sad time because then I realized winter is coming. Winter is here Game of Thrones. Thank you. Then the starkness of the trees without the leaves is a bit much and a bit sad.

So this is a time that I consider embracing the change and embracing the process because, for every Fall and Winter, there is a Spring.

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3 Key Job Interview Questions to Prepare For

By Tiffany A. Dedeaux

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As you prepare for your next job interview it can be overwhelming to think through all the possible questions that could be asked, especially if you are progressing past the first round. As a ProTip, here are three questions I recommend thinking through not just for the interview, but for yourself:

1. Tell Me About Yourself

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This is a tough question because you may not know where to start or where to end. I find it helps if I translate that question into “TELL ME ABOUT THE RELEVANT PARTS OF YOUR CAREER.”  By thinking of it in this way you can tell the story of how you arrived at this moment, without getting too far out into the weeds. 

I will share with you a framework for how to answer this question beyond a step-by-step walkthrough of your resume in another post.

2. Why Do You Want THIS Job?

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This is a key question because, like in dating, everyone wants to feel special.  If you share some blanket statement that could seem to be shared with ANY prospective employer then it may seem as though you have not put much thought into your candidacy. 

One of the key things recruiters want to see is effort, so they are looking to weed out those doing a “spray and pray” approach to throwing around resumes and seeing what sticks.  If you craft an answer that shows that THIS role matters to you then maybe…just maybe your application will get a second look.

3. Where Do You See Yourself in 5 Years?

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While it may be true that there is no way to know, but it is important to have a longer-term goal, a North Star, so that you have a direction for your growth. Sometimes it is too easy to stay where and how you are while the world – and innovation – passes by.

With this answer, you may not share all of your plans, but you definitely want to share how this role will help you to develop the skills to grow into the professional you want to become.

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